March 9, 2011 08:15 by nitin
You are endowed with certain naughtiness as a child. Keep it alive. Humour will grease all tough situations. One who has humour can sail through any conflict. Humour is the buffer that saves you from humiliation. If you refuse to be humiliated, you become invincible. Humour brings everyone together, while humiliation tears them apart. In a society torn with humiliation and insult, humour is like a breath of fresh air
– Sri Sri Ravi Shankar
September 28, 2010 00:01 by nitin
When a mother genuinely angry, administers the blows and billows of anger on her children, the children also get angry, but are unable to react or protest effectively. Besides discipline imposed by fear has only a marginal chance of becoming a good acquired habit, because of the coexistence of suppressed, but developing animosity in the hearts of children. The result is that their anger goes under-ground in their minds and lies in wait, manufacturing animosity of different kinds in their psyche.
When the animosity will suddenly explode, as it must, one day, she, who had not learnt to overcome her anger, and is now also unable to use her wonted anger-therapy on her grown up children, would find herself to be very unhappy and frustrated person. And, to be sure, she has herself contributed to this situation! It is to be pondered over weather or not the permanent benefit of filial love should be sacrificed for a temporary advantage.
But the situation would be entirely different if the mother practices anger-therapy on her children after learning how to overcome her own anger. In that case she would be only hissing like the cobra of Sri Ramkrishna’s parable, and not biting. [Note: the reference is to the story of the Brahamchari and the Cobra in the Gospel of Sri Ramakrishna]
Creative utilization of anger is impossible for a person who has not learnt how to overcome his anger.
Excerpt from How to overcome anger ~Swami Paramananda
Q. How to control desire?
Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: Be in the now. Desire is wanting to be happy tomorrow. Be happy and joyful now. Like children, if you ask them what they want, they will say nothing. Because they are happy with 'now'.
Lord protect the little ones.
Those learning to walk, to run, to climb.
As they take their tumbles and their knocks,
May they be upright as tall pines climbing the hills.
But teach them to bend too -
To be humble like the willow,
Which bows low gracefully,
And comes to no harm.
~ Ruskin Bond, To Live in Magic