“Do not allow mistakes to take deep root, but watch for and eradicate them by training and experience.”
~ BKS Iyengar (Light on Pranayama)

You are continually attracting towards you, from both the seen and the unseen sides of life-forces, thoughts, influences and conditions most akin to those of your own thoughts and lines.
In the realm of thought, people of similar thoughts are attracted to one another. This universal law is continually operating whether we are conscious of it or not.
Carry any kind of thought you please about with you and so long as you retain it, no matter how you roam over land or sea, you will unceasingly attract to yourself, knowingly or inadvertently, exactly and only what corresponds to your own dominant quality of thought.
Thoughts are your private property and so you can regulate them to suit your taste entirely by steadily recognizing your ability to do so.
You have entirely in your own hands to determine the order of influence you attract and are not mere willowy creatures of circumstances, unless indeed you choose to be.
~ Swami Sivananda
Thoughts of worry and thoughts of fear are fearful forces within us. They poison the very sources of life and destroy the harmony, the running efficiency, the vitality and vigour.
While the opposite thoughts of cheerfulness, joy and courage, heal soothe, instead of irritating, and immensely augment efficiency and multiply the mental powers. Be always cheerful. Smile. Laugh.
~ Swami Sivananda

How does one cultivate love for those duties which create conflict in the mind?
First of all, you should sit down. There are only few conflicts; not many. You have not resolved them because you are afraid. And do you know what fear does? Fear invites danger. You are afraid of that, and that’s why you have kept the fear.
Don’t be afraid. Sooner or later you’ll have to resolve those fears. Be forward and do it. The conflict will not be there. You are afraid of telling something to your wife, and there is a conflict, ‘I did not say this to my wife. If she knows, she is going to create havoc at home.’ So there is a conflict.
Either resolve it without letting it out. Spitting something bad out is also not good. It is not necessary.More...
When you do not use your human effort, yet you believe in God, God says, ‘No. Human effort is a gift given by me. Use it.’
~ Swami Rama
Lectures on Patanjali’s Yogasutra
Stress means you are not doing what you are supposed to do. You are doing what you are not supposed to do.
~ Swami Rama
(Lectures on Patanjali’s Yogasutra)