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Using emotions for spiritual gains

Emotion is power; it is neither good nor bad. It is important to know how to use that power.

First we must learn not to create any divisions of positive and negative. Second, let us look upon others in the same way that we look upon ourselves. Let us not force others to be like us. Third, we must learn to 'divinise' our emotions.

Emotions bind us, but if divinised, they can elevate us. Attachment for objects or sense pleasures binds us. On the other hand, attachment for higher ideals or for wise people who represent those ideals, leads to spiritual fulfilment. Here, there is no bondage. The wise master loves us without attachment and also helps us realise our true Self. More...

Create a learning and rejoicing family

Creating a happy family

Operate from commitment and not complaint. Let your identity not depend on others.

If others have told you that you are a great speaker, then you feel you are a great speaker. So your identity is dependent on others. In fact, others create your identity. Others validate you. It is painful, as you have invested much on others. Your image is in the hands of others. The fact is, the real 'I' in us is not created by others. The lower self is a product of others, but the higher self is our essence. The higher self is a presence. It is awareness. We have not learnt to operate from that state of being. Hence, we are alien to ourselves. More...

Relationships and the ego


When you operate from ego, your relationships will be affected. Ego wants to prove its point of view. The point of view is more important than truth or happiness. In that state, you demand and not command respect. If a couple demands respect from each other, then they are beggars of happiness and not givers of happiness. In the egoistic state, an argument feeds the ego.

Remember no one wins an argument. You accumulate more of bitterness and at different periods of time you settle scores with the other. When you operate from the 'higher self', there is a healthy discussion. In discussion, truth is more important than who has said it. Happiness and well-being become more important than the survival of one's point of view.


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